I got a call from a friend a couple weeks ago. “Say, we’re going skydiving for my birthday, want to go?” Immediately, I noticed my mind making pictures of a fatal crash and could feel my body in a panic. So of course I said, “YES!”

When I was a kid, I had an incident that left me with a phobia of heights. Fourteen years ago I did a tandem skydive and it went away, I thought. Even though I was sitting in my chair, safely in my home, it’s funny what the mind does, isn’t it! In that moment, I connected with the truest part of my and said to myself, “I’m not going to live like this!” and “YES” was my answer. If you’ve ever had a phobia, it happens and an instantaneous all over body sensation. The body automatically goes into a mode to protect itself, or so it thinks.

Why is this important? We all have fear! Many people don’t want to call it that. But as a coach I’ve found it incredibly freeing for people to admit they are afraid. Typically, you’re either loving something, or afraid, every other description is a cover up. Fear is “the anticipation of pain”. If you think there will be any pain, and you’re avoiding something, that’s fear!

So what are you afraid of? Maybe it’s talking to a special someone? You hands get sweaty, the mind is flashing up pictures of failure. Maybe it’s starting a business, making a phone call, maybe just managing your money regularly? When you feel the pain before you’re even starting, that’s fear. The magic hear is that fear is made up in the mind and what you’re afraid of, when you go into it, will dissipate. The best way to eliminate fear is to go into the fear directly. The secret is that fear usually hides a great gift for you. Notice fear and let that be a trigger to “dive” right into it to reveal more freedom.

Here’s a video of my jump. Maybe you’ll do something this month you’ve been afraid of and regain more freedom and power.

By the way, notice the chute I pulled out and the one I landed with are different colors! My fear wasn’t of heights but of a parachute malfunction, and that’s what happened. No problem thought, this is a very safe sport and my reserve chute worked great, although one lands quite fast with it. Interesting how we can manifest our fears, but staying present, the fear isn’t problem. Moral: have a backup plan then focus on having fun!

I was inspired 20 years ago to study NLP because of Tony Robbins. He took this amazing new development in psychology to the masses. Below is a 4 1/2 minute video that explains why most couples can’t seem to find happiness, the most important human desire. The reason: their “rules” for being happy are not achievable. This is true for individuals also. Most people have a rule for being happy that can never be achieved.

No wonder most Americans, in numerous polls, say they are unhappy. And, as this world shrinks and we export American technology, are we exporting unreachable rules for happiness too? (Another term for “rule” might be “Standard of Living.”) I was recently in Mexico for a week, a fairly poor country even in the resort town of Mazatlan. However, it was profound how happy these people seemed, most likely because of their achievable rule for being happy.

What are your rules for happiness? Watch this video to understand how we elicit rules in NLP and email me or leave some comments on this blog to share with others. Let’s hear what kind of rules you’ve been living with.

Men, pay particular attention because many of us want our women to be happy all the time. We want to be “successful”, it’s the masculine objective. The challenge, the feminine doesn’t want to be happy all the time, just like our beautiful earth doesn’t want to be sunny all the time.

I just read this passage in a book on making documentaries. A truly profound understanding from someone who understands the power of film and the challenge of editing and making a great film.

How does this apply to us? It’s been said that we can better understand the human challenge when we think of the eyes as a projection lens on a movie projector, rather than an input device. We did our input when we were children, learning language, absorbing the world like a sponge. Now, as an adult, reading this, we actually are projecting our own stuff onto the world.

We can keep this in mind to enjoy more happiness in our lives. Realize that throughout the day we are a walking, talking, projector. Own that and go back to looking at the world anew. Stop looking “for” all the behaviors we “know” about our loved ones, or work, our home, that person in the mirror each morning.

Remember when life was new, before our ego got stuck on thinking it “knows” things. Spend this day looking “at” everything and everyone as if they are new (because they are!). Try this an entire day. Most people can’t make it 5 minutes without the mind commenting on how it thinks things “really are”.

Look at things as they are, without all the knowing. Be curious. If you are going to use this understanding, start looking “for” how interesting people are. Look for the little wonderful things about your partner. Practice looking for the wonderful things about your life!

What happened to the movie The Secret? Did the Law of Attraction wear out? Is it not working because too many people are using it?

Often we can be distracted by the desires of ego to somehow enhance the little me inside with those things someone told us we want. The ego can distract us from the love and opportunity that is right in front of us, not somewhere out in some future we are waiting for.

Here’s a great short film that won at a film festival last year called The Rub of Attraction. The theme… are you seeing the big picture in the Law of Attraction?

The Law of Attraction does work. We must remember that the law wants what is best for our spiritual unfoldment, not just our short-term social-egoic desires.

You can also find two other inspiring winners of the 2007 Elevate Film Festival here.

Are you curious how a billionaire reaches their goals?

How is it that Oprah could become a billionaire, with the top rated show in TV, web cast with over 26 million people, XM Radio show, films, you name it? How could Eckhart sell over 5 million copies of his book (a best seller is 35,000!) and begin to transform our planet?

I’ve clipped out this 10 minutes of video from the two-hour final episode of their historic web cast which answers this question. If you have any goals at all (uh, are you breathing?) you MUST watch this video. Eckhart describes having a vision rather than struggling for a goal.

Great visions come from the inside - out, not the outside - in. Take a few seconds now to feel this in your body before you read more…

Whether it’s Bill Gates seeing a computer in every home, Fred Smith seeing packages delivered anywhere over night, or Oprah seeing people being empowered through teaching, an inside-out vision is the common thread.

Practice an inside-out vision or struggle, it’s your choice!

This is one of the most amazing photos I’ve ever seen! It’s of the recent volcanic eruption in Chile. This is actually a common occurrence and happened during Mt. Saint Helen’s eruption. The sky cools from all the airborne ash, bringing rain clouds, which are highly charged with energy. The volcanic plume stretches up to the sky so the lightning has an easy path to the earth.

Everything is energy! We are surrounded by energy and energy is what every human wants. Remember, we can’t really get energy from other people, only from nature, the foods we eat, the sun, rain, water, etc. Take a deep breath and feel the energy all around you. Give the people in your life a break! Be an channel for the energy of the heavens…

More photos at Chile Volcano Photos

If you’ve been following A New Earth with Eckhart Tolle and Oprah, Monday May 5th will be the last of the 10-week interviews. But, as one door closes, another opens… this is life… life is simply change.

On Wednesday May 21st, a new 5-week course is beginning to deepen your awareness and understanding of A New Earth, the new earth you can create for yourself. Go to www.anewearth.com to register.

After such an intensive schedule of the last 2 years since the book, it is reported that Eckhart may go on hiatus from teaching completely for a few years. He may go back into the silence to find what else wants to be born for the unfolding of our world. This class will be a rare opportunity to work with one of his trusted teachers. She began working with Eckhart directly in 1998.

“Karen holds the consciousness frequency of Presence with grace and gentleness, thus facilitating the emergence and growth of Presence within each participant. My love and blessings go to her and all the wonderful people attending her sessions.”
                       -Eckhart Tolle

If you’ve seen The Secret, I’m sure you were blown away. Though the Law of Attraction has been around as long a gravity, this movie brought Personal Responsibility to millions of Americans in an inspiring way. The Secret showed how our thoughts are creating our reality. As a Life Coach and NLP Master, I’ve been teaching people this for years. It’s basic psychology and teaches us first-level manifestation - getting what I want. Of course, many people realized quickly that The Secret was only the first step. Without further levels, it can simply become a selfish taking for ego and the technology quickly begins to malfunction.

From the director of The Secret comes the next installment: The Moses Code. Neale Donald Walsh, Michael Beckwith, and other teachers from The Secret as well as new teachers will reveal an even deeper secret: "the most powerful manifestation tool in the history of the world".

Moses is one of my favorite hero stories! Here’s an ordinary man who answered, "Who am I?" when Yahweh told him his mission in life. That’s a common story for most of us… our ego mind thinks us too small to do what we already have in our heart. Moses was a character that took action, even though he had great doubts all along the way, and created massive manifestation.

The world premiere is April 5th, 2008. It will also be out on DVD April 7th, 2008. Check out the web site for more on what is sure to be a power next step beyond The Secret.

The Moses Code: The Most Powerful Manifestation Tool in the History of the World (Book) by James F. Twyman Read more about this book…

The Moses Code: The Most Powerful Manifestation Tool in the History of the World (DVD) by James F. Twyman Read more about this book…

A great King and Queen were being taught directly by Buddha 2500 years ago. They were learning about the depth of ego and separation. One evening, the King went to the Queen and asked, "Do you love me?" The Queen graciously answered, "No, I only love myself?" The King smiled and replied, "me too, I only love me!" and walked over to hold her tightly.

In ancient times, an answer like that from a queen could be fatal to her and today we are not much more advanced. But, what this couple learned is that it is rare for humans to truly love anyone. From this place of deep spiritual awareness (i.e. honesty of what is), they could be free of illusions and begin a real love.

What is needed here is an understanding of what is "love". Love is a verb, it is "giving", plain and simply. When you truly love, you give completely, unconditionally, wanting nothing in return. You don’t just give in moments when you feel your needs are met, or you are happy, you give especially when you don’t "feel" like it.

To whom do you give expecting nothing in return? Do you really love your partner or do you withhold love when they don’t give you what you want? Most of us are not "loving" with others, we are "needing" or "wanting" from others. When we meet a partner, we want what they can give us, how they can make us feel better. Eventually, they can’t satisfy our needs so we get upset. This isn’t love, it’s "taking". This becomes a control game of withholding for needs.

First, be honest with yourself and notice if you have "needs" with a loved one or are truly giving unconditionally. Then, decide if you truly want to love them. If so, begin to practice giving for no reason, sharing when you are not in the mood. Practice truly loving, not egoic wanting.

Another ancient concept is that God is love. It follows that if God is an omnipotent force, it has no needs, thus can only give. What would it be like if you could give unconditionally? Isn’t that the deepest joy?

If you haven’t heard of Eckhart Tolle yet, you will soon! His latest book, A New Earth, has already sold 5 million copies  and is the current best seller on Amazon.com.

In this book, Eckhart clarifies the key source of pain and suffering on earth: ego. In it, he describes how every human mind has this built-in mechanism which separates us from other people creating the drama in our lives. More importantly, he gives straight-forward and simple understandings for how we can limit this ego chatter and create "a new earth" together. He goes way beyond the me-centric ego gratification in The Secret to real peace and joy right now. Those of you familiar with my work know that releasing our fear-based chatty ego mind and harnessing our inner beingness is the key to all real happiness.

Oprah and Eckhart are doing the first-ever global Webcast classroom. Each Monday at 6pm Pacific Time, for 10 weeks, they will be teaching and answering questions about the book. Click this link to watch the Webcast live: A New Earth live Webcast

Many have found that with 139 countries watching, the Internet just can’t handle the load. I’ve found a better way to get the program is automatically each Tuesday in iTunes. Click this podcast link to show in your iTunes then subscribe. You’ll get the 90-minute video and the audio version to watch or listen to any time.

If you don’t have iTunes yet, it is very easy to use. Click this button to install , then come back here and click the iTunes button above.

I’ll posting to the blog about the book, ego and how to lessen it, revealing your true being. I’d love to receive comments her on the topic.

The book is just $7.70 on Amazon: